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About SheWhoEats

“There is a communion of more than our bodies when bread is broken and wine is drunk.” -MFK Fisher

I don’t keep photo albums.  Somewhere in my dresser drawer, I have horded a couple dozen journals with only the first 10 pages filled.  Instead, my life is measured out bite by bite.  I remember nearly every great and horrible meal I’ve ever eaten, and then all the rest comes flooding back.  The first time I tasted Thai Curry was also the first date I had with my current life partner-in-dine.    I remember the skinny cheese fries from Tasty Dog on a weekday night with my family after jazz dance classes.  Huge family arguments over Eggplant Parmesan washed down with watered down frozen lemonade.   Picking golden delicious apples or rhubarb in our backyard, and turning it into pie.

I find food, it’s cultivation and politics an inexhaustible subject, and  I see so much potential in the fact of it.  Food is as necessary as it is a luxury, and kitchens are so often the art studios of the working parent.

I spend most of my days trying to avoid eating out every single meal.  Until I traveled to Italy  a couple of years ago, I thought I could eat Asian food for breakfast, lunch and dinner every day for the rest of my life.  One dream in life is to create a sushi roll named after myself.  I already have one, but it’s recognized only by two restaurants in Asheville.  I want it on the permanent menu of all sushi restaurants everywhere.   Breakfast is of no use to me.  I believe it should be removed.  Breakfast for dinner is one of the worst ideas ever conceived.

My cooking vasillates between Asian fare or 1950’s midwestern comfort food- ie. anything based on frozen peas.  I don’t bake anything except pies.  I don’t save money for any purpose other than expensive dinners.  Supper is the superior meal of the day.  Breyer’s makes the best coffee ice cream on the market. White chocolate is an abomination and must be put out of its misery.  European, Mexican, East-Asian, and Canadian candy bars are all superior to American candy bars.  My favorite wine is vino verde (slightly bubbly, dry, tart).    I love to enjoy a vast variety of flavors, but sometimes I become emotionally attached to one food, usually because it played a significant role during some point in my life.  Pumpkin frozen yogurt from TCBY is such a dish (beware!  They don’t make it like they use to).   Pasta Carbonara is another.  I generally dislike all generic American staples such as:  pancakes, pizza, hamburgers, and chocolate chip cookies.  I order the special with special additional personal features.  I add and remove ingredients to create “the perfect meal” at every restaurant I frequent.  I believe in personally thanking the chef after a great meal.  I wish I said grace or had a moment of silence before eating, but I forget nearly every time.

30 Comments leave one →
  1. May 18, 2007 2:25 am

    Love the blog!

    (But I am shocked – shocked – about the breakfast animosity. Would I be meeting a different, happier, person if we started meeting at Doc Chey’s instead of Sunny Point? Say it isn’t so!)

  2. Gourmet Grrl permalink
    May 18, 2007 6:46 pm

    It’s all about the company, girl! As long as I can order lunch at breakfast time, I’m happy. (And I can do this at SP.) Also, I’m generally happy any time I’m eating out, or eating with a group of people, and the coffee freaking rocks at SP, so you are getting a very happy happy me on those Saturday mornings.

  3. May 31, 2007 6:49 pm

    Your freakish breakfast aversion notwithstanding, I thoroughly enjoy this. And kudos to you for self-publishing it. I bet you’ll get a book deal within the year (no joke).

  4. June 4, 2007 6:21 pm

    How is this possible? How did I never know, until reading your anonymous-ish blog, that you and I both think breakfast is a fairly silly idea? I strongly feel a need to eat in the mornings, but I’d much prefer eating leftovers as opposed to cereal. Really, I’d rather make shrimp alfredo with fresh pasta all from scratch first thing in the morning and enjoy it then, but I simply don’t enjoy waking up early enough to make that happen.
    Thanks for being you & for sharing you with us!

  5. harry hood permalink
    August 15, 2007 10:29 pm

    Wow, just read this page. Are you my long-lost twin? Breakfast is indeed useless. Good hash browns could be the exception but those are hard to find anyway. I always tell people I should have been asian. I could start in India and work my way east and be happy every day and be very happy. I’d be in much better shape if I didn’t enjoy my cooking so much, but baking involves precision and that just ain’t my thing. I don’t really eat baked goods anyway. White chocolate isn’t even chocolate and milk chocolate is right behind it in the useless department. Dark is it! Dark with chilies is nearly enough to kill for. I want to know more about this Gourmet Grrl sushi roll.

    I’m really happy I found this blog. Keep up the great work!

  6. Gaber permalink
    August 16, 2007 12:38 am

    I too am glad to have found this blog! I really enjoyed the post about a weekend in Asheville. I agree with most of your choices, but not all. Anyways, having moved away from Asheville earlier this year (sob), I find it refreshing to have a way to keep up with the ever-changing local restaurant landscape! Keep it up!

  7. Jim Jenkins permalink
    August 16, 2007 4:39 pm

    Kudos Gourmet Grrl on an excellent and refreshing blog. Despite your heretical views on both breakfast & baking, I’m a fan.

    I too loved your weekend in Asheville post. My daughter is taking my partner and I out to lunch at Papas & Beer this afternoon. I’ve been craving it since reading your review.

    You’ve got my nomination and vote as best new blog at BlogAsheville.


  8. August 20, 2007 5:12 pm

    Hiya eater,

    I can’t find your email addy, yet I’m hungry to send you an email. Will you send me yours?

    Gordon at BlogAsheville

  9. September 24, 2007 5:26 am

    I cant find how to contact you either.

    Any opinions on Indian food in Asheville? Seems there aren’t much choices. I’d especially like to find Southern Indian food.

  10. Drew Jones permalink
    October 1, 2007 12:13 am

    OMG, Gourmet Grrl — I’m loving this NEW side of you. Never knew. You’ve got a wonderful Clark Kent going, but I really love hearing about your Supergrrl side too!

    Drew, a fan for yet another reason

  11. October 3, 2007 10:36 pm


    What about good fried chicken in Asheville? KFC, Bojangles etc don’t even begin to count.

    I just moved to Asheville last January (though lived here for awhile in 2000). So, I’m missing food from my previous home… just Columbia, SC. Not at all far away. So, I should not be missing much right?

    One thing you can find in South Carolina is plentiful amounts of good fried chicken. You find small drive-up places with burgers, fries, ice cream and really good chicken. Or, BBQ places that also have great chicken. Chicken at many gas stations even. People in SC surly like their chicken.

    Where is this in Asheville? My 90 year old aunt says the people here are just “More North” and I just have to accept that or move back. So, where is the chicken? I found myself shopping last night pricing deep fryers to take matters into my own hands. The previously mentioned 90 year old aunt has told me exactly what I have to do.

  12. October 4, 2007 10:45 am

    Harry Hood,
    It’s all about The Moose Cafe.
    On Brevard Rd. near the WNC Farmer’s Market.

  13. Bruce permalink
    November 30, 2007 11:17 pm

    “Lambrusco is my favorite wine”

    Seriously I hope that was a joke! I guess Boones would have been too obvious of a joke but if you are serious then I am speechless.

  14. Bruce permalink
    November 30, 2007 11:31 pm

    And sorry but when you went to Italy you ate Asian food? Or did you like Asian food before you went to Italy?

    And Bettie Crocker or Breakfast for well Breakfast and dinner is horrible?

    Sorry, i am trying to understand what you mean.

  15. December 1, 2007 10:57 am

    Can good food writing be accomplished with a combination of opinionated professionalism + whimsy?

    According to me, the answer is yes, yes and yes!

    I really love Asian cuisine. I love Italian food. While in Italy, I had a singularly positive, unparalleled experience with Lambrusco wine. Other than that one time, I love an extra dry Pinot Grigio. I tend to cook out of the Betty Crocker Cookbook. I don’t prefer breakfast, and I don’t appreciate when people serve breakfast foods at the dinner hour.

    I like what I like.


  16. December 10, 2007 10:26 pm

    Hey Gourmet Grrl,

    Love your blog and would like to link to it from mine. Since Hendersonville Epicurean’s focus is mostly south of you, I think my readers would love your info on Asheville and your terrific writing.

    Check it out at and let me know what you think.

    Hope you had a great time roughing it on the island!


  17. January 24, 2008 6:04 pm

    Consider yourself invited to Pesto Festo!!!

  18. March 19, 2008 11:23 pm

    I’m glad you don’t like pizza, because after reading your description of yourself as a customer, I don’t want to wait on you at Marcos. however, I’m glad you are here, in the blogosphere- and my life in cake wants to be your friend. this will begin when I take the link to the “she who eats” who is living in Japan (i could never understand why it was considered an asheville blog, but figured i should put it on there anyway and that it would make sense one day) and put the true asheville “she who eats” on my life in cake. i’ve been terribly confused about this whole thing and am really glad, since that night at the chocolate lounge, that I finally figured it out.

  19. July 23, 2008 11:21 pm

    Just ran across your blog! Interesting read!

  20. angela permalink
    August 10, 2008 12:54 pm

    Friends told me about your blog yesterday, and I am grateful they did. Thanks for intelligent food writing. We’d given up on anything published in the local papers; it isn’t criticism, but thinly veiled ads for all things local. (Did you see the Asheville C-T “review” of Ole Guacamole in Black Mountain? I rest my case.)

    Have you eaten at the new Mexican restaurant in Woodfin? I believe the name is Curras.

  21. November 3, 2008 5:38 pm

    Hope you are well.

    I’m a reporter with the Citizen-Times and I’m doing a story about how to make a Thanksgiving meal on a budget. I really liked your last post about not spending a pretty penny on meals during these tough economic times.

    Do you have any ideas or tips to share for Turkey Day? I would love to include some local people in the story.

    Thanks and please contact me through e-mail or by phone, 232-2935.
    Thanks again and look forward to hearing from you.

  22. November 17, 2008 10:44 pm

    Hey Gourmet Grrrrrrrrl,

    Good to run into you at the Prop 8 rally….as promised, I’m checking out She Who Eats and loving it.

    My blog, the milkweed diaries, is on blogspot …. it’s also about food, but in a different way – lots about eating, but also lots about growing and cooking food and the politics of food….anyway check it out if you’re so inclined.

    In any case we clearly share a love of eating that stuff we call food. Thanks for your juicy writings and viva la food!

  23. June 9, 2009 11:59 am

    Hey, Gourmet Girl,

    Earth Fare needs your blogs’ help in giving away some $50 gift cards. We wanted to give one away to one of your readers. We would ask you to run a contest about what green living means to your readers. You can run a contest similar to the one below. But, it’s up to you as long as your run the initial blog post with the contest and follow that up with a blog post announcing the winner, we’re good with it. If you’re interested, we would love to help out one of your readers. Just let me know!

    Misty Faucheux
    Social Media Manager
    Earth Fare

    Green living has become such a catch-phrase. You seem to hear about something being “green” every single day of our life now! (And, no we’re not talking about Kermit the Frog being green either! We’re talking about the sustainable form of green living.) But, what does green living mean to you? Earth Fare, the healthy supermarket, wants to know what makes you tick when it comes to green living.

    Well, Earth Fare has decided to share some love and gave me a $50.00 gift card to give away to you! Yeah, very cool. They just said, hey ________ – give this away for us.

    So, what does green living mean to you? How do you live the “green lifestyle”? Gab to us your green living mantra below, and we’ll consider it for the prize.

    The best story gets the card. So, ready, set, and get writing. Post your reason in the comments below today! You only have until _________to get your entry in. And, we’re waiting..

  24. November 18, 2009 12:30 pm

    gourmet girl,

    what would your suggestion for new years eve dinner downtown be? we are staying at the indigo and want to stay within walking distance!

  25. November 18, 2009 5:27 pm

    Hi Yeti,

    All of the downtown restaurants are pretty much in walking distance from the Hotel Indigo. For a fun, delicious, and festive New Year’s Eve, I have two recommendations.
    If you love Italian, than Cucina 24 is the ticket. It looks like they are open on Dec. 31.

    Or, if you’re looking for upscale cuisine with a fierce dedication to locally grown food, try The Market Place. They are open on New Year’s Eve but they require a phone call and a credit card to hold the reservation. I have had lovely, elegant meals at both venues, and I think you’re in for a treat either way. If cost is an issue, then Cucina 24 will be slightly more affordable.

    Happy New Year!

  26. November 18, 2009 6:07 pm


    both of those crossed my mind as well as table, wanted to be close and avoid driving on new years eve, but may just have to catch a cab down to the admiral…its just hard to beat IMO!! thanks for the reply….i look forward to more blog entries!

  27. November 19, 2009 3:40 pm

    I ate at The Admiral last night. Cause I just can’t stop. If that’s your choice, then make your reservation RIGHT NOW. They fill up fast on a random Tuesday, so I can only imagine NYE will be booked solid.

    I’m not a real big fan of Table. I find it to be overpriced without understanding why, and the food (and decor) is just not that interesting. I also have had a number of negative experiences with Table’s wait staff. Once, a waiter spilled a glass of red wine on my husband and then charged us for it, and another time a waitress refused to make any accommodations for the 5-year-old who accompanied me at lunchtime- no booster seats, no milk. And she wasn’t very gracious or apologetic about it.

    But that’s just my experience. You may feel otherwise.

    I’ll post again later today! Thanks for your support.

  28. January 13, 2010 10:45 pm

    Hi there Gourmet Grrl!

    Just stopping by to introduce myself and my blog, Nina, which you may find of interest as it is an Asheville-based blog about a few things including food. If you have a moment I’d very much appreciate you checking it out!



  29. September 21, 2010 7:22 pm

    I’ve had you in my top menu bar since my last computer, and would like to contact you…will this get to you? I now have a NEW artisan food product and would love to send it to you (you will love it, I promise!). It’s a whole wheat, organic Pizza Kit to create at home as simple or as gourmet as your mood requires. I’m sure this is shameless plugging, but I hope you check us out,, and more so, I hope I can send you a Pizza Kit to try. Yum!

  30. Ron Mitchell permalink
    October 28, 2010 10:36 am

    Since who knows if the Pho joint in the Downtown Market will ever open, try Kampai Sushi and Vietnamese on Biltmore across from Diana Wortham Theater for pho as good as I’ve ever had, even in Seattle. It’s not on the menu, but ask for it. The only slightly downside at this time of the year is that the basil leaves they serve on the side aren’t going to be as big and plump as you might get in mid-summer. But it’s really top quality pho.

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